Well, this month marks one year since we received our foster care license and entered the Illinois Adopt Waiting Children program. Aside from a couple of nibbles last summer, we have (sadly) had no movement on the adoption front. This was likely also influenced by the departure of our agency caseworker in mid-November. Her replacement starts tomorrow, so we look forward to getting to know her ASAP!
Meanwhile, we stumbled into a little unexpected adventure. We were asked to provide rides to medical appointments for a couple who was expecting a baby and did not have a vehicle of their own. Their doctor decided to induce a few days before the due date, and they delivered a healthy baby girl.
I don’t know exactly how or why, but the Illinois Department of Children and Family Services got involved with this couple. It turns out they both have DCFS records in other states and had lost or given up custody of their children from previous relationships. Thus, there was some question as to whether it would be safe for the baby to go home with her parents.
Rather than taking the baby into custody immediately, the DCFS investigator proposed implementing a Safety Plan, which simply means that with the consent of the parents, the baby is put into a safe situation for a limited time while the background investigation is completed. Matt and I were asked to be the responsible parties for a seven-day Safety Plan. When it was time for the baby to be released from the hospital, we all signed the agreement and the baby came home with us.
Over the next six days, the parents visited periodically with the baby at our home while the investigator gathered the needed information. This was an interesting time for us! I have never been responsible for a newborn, so Matt helped me get into the rhythm of feed – diaper – sleep, and we learned to decode the baby’s various noises and expressions. She was a good baby, and by the third night was sleeping four hours at a stretch! Matt and I took turns with night duty, and everything worked out just fine.
On day five, the DCFS investigator contacted us to let us know the baby would be going into foster care for a while. On day six, she invited the foster parents to our home to meet us and pick up the baby. They are a younger couple who just completed their foster training in November, and this was their first placement. They were very excited and very sweet, and we believe they will do a great job.
The next day the birth parents, the foster parents, and the investigator attended a hearing for a judge to grant temporary custody to the foster parents. (We did not attend, but we gave the birth parents a ride to the courthouse.) The birth parents have nine months to take advantage of services provided by DCFS to get themselves and their home ready so that their baby girl can return home.
Since Matt and I will not be having any children of our own, it was a great blessing for us to have a few days with this sweet little newborn. We were able to get to know her, care for her physical and emotional needs, and cherish her unique spirit. Unlike a fostering situation, which usually has an indefinite outcome, we knew we had just a limited time with her before she either went back home with her parents or into actual foster care. This made it easier to commit to the Safety Plan and to work with parents until the decision was made.
We can’t say for sure why Heavenly Father granted us this special responsibility, but we are very grateful for the opportunity to help out some of His children for a little while. We are praying for all the parties involved, and trust that whatever happens will be the right path for this sweet little angel as she commences her journey in mortality.